5 Simple Strategies to Build Confidence in Yourself and Others
Implementing strategies to build confidence in yourself and others is simple, but it’s not easy. We see tons of women in the media and in business that seem incredibly successful, but what we don’t see is the work they’ve put into getting there. There is often years of “fake it ’til you make it” sort of practice behind it. And even now, a lot of them will often say they still get bad nerves before performing, or before speaking, but they’ve managed to cope with the nerves.
Committing to consistent monitoring of your progress and your mindset around your confidence is crucial to your progress.
All of these strategies are ones that I have personally tested and use regularly.
The simplest strategy to building confidence is to stand up straight. There is a lot of conflicting information on whether or not this is actually an effective strategy from a scientific standpoint, but people have been using it for decades and getting results.
Whenever I enter a room where I feel intimidated by those in the meeting, or feel like I have less confidence than I need, I immediately stand up straight. In my experience, it is helpful in feeling powerful in your stance.
Standing tall instantly does something to my mindset that shifts gears in my brain from “I can’t do this and everyone is smarter than me” to “I got this, be calm and don’t rush.”
Exercise is one of the most essential strategies to build confidence in yourself and others. The reduction of stress that occurs from the releasing of endorphins when you exercise will go a long way in relaxing your mind. This in turn will help with anxiety that causes your inner voice to tell you that you can’t do it.
Exercising also builds muscle, which makes you feel stronger. In my experience, the stronger I feel, the more confident I feel.
Set a goal and achieve it
Goal setting is talked about among successful people all around the world for eons. The act of sitting down and thinking about what you want and actually executing a plan to get there feels amazing.
Setting and achieving a goal can prove to your inner bully that you can do it. I get a lot of satisfaction from achieving a goal, but as this article with psychology today says .. “You can gain confidence simply by taking action towards your goal even if you don’t get the result you were looking for.”
Start small by setting a goal you can achieve in a short time. As an example, perhaps you have have a goal of implementing a workout routine, so you set a goal to start walking for 15 minutes on your lunches for the next two weeks.
Each time you complete your daily goal, you will feel great. At the end of the two weeks, if you’ve managed to even walk 8 out of 10 workdays, you are still ahead of the game and can feel good about your goal.
Try it now. Set yourself a small goal that can be accomplished within one or two weeks and monitor how you feel after achieving it.
If you want to take it one step further and help someone else feel more confident, set a goal with a friend. Maybe you take a workout class together or you attend a course, or even start a project together (like a blog!).
Monitor your inner voice
The #1 best strategy to build confidence in yourself and others is to monitor your inner voice. From what I’ve ready in the book the confidence code, it seems that women who seem like their confidence is unshakeable like CEOs of huge companies, and even famous athletes, still struggle with confidence and their inner voice.
Try to think of it as a conversation that you are having with yourself. It might go something like this:
Inner voice: “You don’t think you can make this sale do you? These people are going to think you are an idiot and too pushy.”
You: “Come on, you know I got this. I have studied and practiced and I know what I’m talking about. As long as I show them the value I can provide, they will love it.”
Inner voice: “But what if they say no? Or tell you to get lost?”
You: “Well what’s the worst that can happen? Then the sale doesn’t happen and I get a little more experience.”
This takes a lot of practice and over time you will get better and better at debating with your inner voice. The inner voice never goes away completely, but it will start listening to your very compelling argument about your worth.
Meditation can also go a long way towards quieting that inner voice.
Women uplifting women
We have a real problem in the world right now. From my perspective, men seem to work together, they don’t really judge each other, and if they do, they don’t really care about what other men think. Women tend to judge each other, take it personally, and seem to put each other down constantly.
If we are going to make a better world for the next generation, we need to teach them about women uplifting women and how it is one of the most important strategies to build confidence in yourself and others.
We need to change this narrative if we want to change the world. Start today by uplifting the women around you. Don’t judge their weight, don’t judge their parenting skills, and try to be there for other women.
A few ways you can uplift other women are:
- Complement a woman on her efforts
- Tell your female coworkers that you respect them and their efforts
- Pick your battles with the younger women that work with you, uplift them and help them build their confidence with your help
- Show up for your female friends who compete, or race, or do public speaking
Women uplifting women is so crucial in this point in history. We need to stick together and take on the world together. We can make a huge difference in the world if we focus on uplifting each other and uplifting young women so that the next generation of women takes the world on with confidence and determination. Do your part in changing the world.
What are the Benefits of Confidence?
The benefits of confidence are numerous. Some of the benefits are:
- Better networking opportunities because you aren’t afraid to put yourself out there
- A better sense of self
- Feeling good about what you do
- Liking yourself
- Feeling like you are participating in life rather than hiding from things
- Better opportunities, people tend to be attracted to confidence
The benefits of confidence are undeniable. If you don’t believe me, try some of these strategies out and see how you feel. It’s not about perfecting one, it’s about progress and finding the right combination of all of them that work for you. Some things work great for some people and don’t work at all for others. Try them out and let me know what you think.
Which of These Strategies Works For You?
Have you tried some of these strategies to build confidence in yourself and others before? What was the result? If you haven’t tried them before, go out and try some and let me know how it goes.
You will be shocked at the response you will have if you start uplifting other women. Or if you just change your inner dialogue to a more positive approach, it will radiate across all aspects of your life. It can be life changing in your relationships and it just feels great not to be beating yourself up all the time.
Let me know how it goes, leave a comment about your experience.